Today a 59-year-old man on OkCupid offered to “train me as his submissive”. I wish that I could say this was the first (heck, even the second!) such offer but alas it is around the fifteenth.
I was just about to hit the delete button when the pissed off (and stupid) part of my brain took over the keys. I responded to his (kind and generous) offer with: “What is it about my pictures that make men want to train me? It’s not my thing. :)”. I added the smiley face so that the rejection didn’t sting so much, haha.
His response? “I don’t know about other men but your pictures make me want to [insert incredibly disgusting sexual suggestion here]”.
I should *never* engage with these people and I keep forgetting that! I deleted the messages and moved on with my day. But it really made me wonder… what the heck is it about me? Some possibilities that keep floating through my mind…
- These guys are just sending this out to everyone that they possibly can, hoping to strike gold.
- I’m an over-weight nearly 30-year-old woman and maybe they are hoping that I am just *that* desperate.
- Do I look like a submissive? And what the hell does a submissive look like?!
I mean, all power to you in your alternative lifestyle. Seriously, enjoy. But… why is it what people lead with? What happened to meeting for coffee? Or dinner? Or drinks? I know I’ve never dated before… but that’s what dating looks like in the movies… so that’s how it’s supposed to be… right?
A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with a man on match. Successful, funny, kind. He seemed great. Just as we were getting to the planning of a meeting he informed me that he was looking for a woman who would go out on weekends, sleep with other men, and then come home to tell him about it.
Isn’t that at least a third date conversation?!
Maybe I should get a second cat…