The past few weeks of my “Reset” have gone really well. I’ve been getting enough sleep, working out, eating well. I haven’t been perfect but perfect isn’t my aim. I’ve been looking after myself and I feel good about that.
Problem is… My pain is bad lately.
It’s everywhere. In my head, neck, face, shoulders, arms, elbows, hands. And it seems that every second day or so it flares up to unbearable. It makes me grumpy and frustrated.
It doesn’t help that a loud person recently bought the apartment above me. She seems to like coming home inebriated at 12, 1, or 2 am and staying up for hours, wandering from room to room.
On nights when I don’t get enough sleep my pain is always high the following day. And that creates a mild panic when I know I’m being kept up. Which loops around and keeps me from falling asleep.
My doctor has never really come up with a good explanation for my issues with pain. (My doctor is also completely useless so coming up with a good explanation is probably way beyond his abilities). It isn’t just migraines. It is pain in the tissues of my entire upper body.
It’s been a couple of years since I was having frequent bouts of pain that are centered in the tissues and not in the head. I’m not sure why it is happening now? I know that stress sets it off and that has been a major problem during the most stressful times in my life. But. I’m in a good place. So. Why?
It scares me if I’m honest. It makes me feel trapped within my body. There is something about pain that makes one feel panicked… Because you cannot escape it. It’s something inside of you that you cannot claw out. You have no option but to go through it.
This pain isn’t the end of the world. It is so much less than the pain that so many people deal with every single day. But it is a problem and it does have a significant impact on the things that I am able to do. I know that I need to get lots of sleep, especially when the pain is flaring. Sometimes I need to be lazy, like: really really lazy.
The worst part about this is that it’s so difficult to talk about. I hesitate to post about it because I think it sounds like I’m looking for sympathy or throwing myself a pity party. I’m not. This is what it is and in the big picture my pain isn’t the end of the world. It is something that I need to get better about, something that I need to deal with.
I think we all have these things that we carry around with us. We get frustrated with that friend who is always late for drinks, or the person who has stopped returning our calls. We frown over that colleague who never joins in when we go for after work drinks. It’s important to stop and wonder why.
Sure, some people are simply flaky and we need to love that about them (or cut them from our life).
But I suspect that more often people drop away because they are dealing with something. Something that maybe they don’t want to talk about. Or don’t know how to talk about.
I think we all need to cut one another a little slack. Stop judging and start wondering. Offer support where we can. Lean when we need. Assume that most people really are doing the best that they can with what they have to offer the world.