If you have known me for more than roughly 5 minutes the chances are good that I have sat you down to watch the movie About Time. It is my favourite movie, I think it is genuinely brilliant, and I think that every single person should take a couple of hours to watch it.
The movie is pretty simple. It goes beyond your average love story because… It is about family. About the rhythms and patterns we create with those we love.
Now, the movie was written and directed by Richard Curtis, the same guy who created Love Actually. We won’t hold that against him. (To be clear, I have an irrational dislike of Love Actually).
Our main character is Tim who discovers, on his 21st birthday, that he is able to travel through time to places within his own life. (As are all the men in his family).
Tim decides to use his powers to find love. And, of course, he finds it.
He meets the girl, he loves the girl, he marries the girl. There’s no hesitation in Tim. He’s… earnest. It’s lovely.
(Tim is played by Domhnall Gleeson who is absolutely yummy. It’s worth watching the movie for this fact alone).
I question sometimes why it is that I find this movie so captivating.
These characters fall for each other and move ahead. They have babies because they want them. They joke about how broke they are and how they can’t afford the house that the babies have forced them to buy. They have one of the most disastrous weddings of all time. They fight. Their hearts are broken in the ways that everyone has their heart broken. They lean on one another in the ways that one should be able to lean on a partner.
Aside from the ridiculously beautiful family home and the abnormally good looking lead characters… The characters feel normal for me. The life that they live is something that I want to build for myself one of these days. It feels real. It feels ordinary.
We are a hesitant generation. And, don’t get me wrong, taking time is good and smart. But do we need to wait 3 years? 4? 5? 10?
I talk to my parents and their generation and everyone seems to echo the same thought… They just did it. They met, fell in love, married, had kids. They don’t talk about agonizing in the same way that we do.
This movie is about the ordinary moments and that captivates me because life is about ordinary moments. It is about fights and power outages and time spent giggling on the couch.