“You’re Like Home To Me…”

Did anyone else fall hard into the Carly and Evan romance this season of Bachelor in Paradise?  I did.  I couldn’t help it.  I like Carly.  Her commentary on all situations in the house is so funny, sometimes I fast forward through the episodes just to listen to her sum things up.

Evan, on the other hand, is a bit of an odd one to place.  He’s just so… geeky.  Nothing like the other men that tend to be on the show.

(Don’t get me wrong, geeks are totally my thing.  Guys, if I ever call you a “geek”, it probably means that I’m in love with you and want to get in your pants.)


As one of my friends summed up Carly and Evan’s relationship: “They’re two charmless people who are somehow charming together”.  While I’m not sure that they are entirely charmless on their own (see comments above re: geeks) they certainly are better together.

And I’m not even gonna lie guys.  I may have shed a tear or two watching their final scene together.  How pathetic am I?

Listen, I know that these shows are total and complete bullshit.  But they are such well done bullshit.  I have them on in the background while I cook, or write, or dust.

(Totally kidding. I never dust).

I enjoy watching these shows.  And I do think that we can take some gems from them once in a while.  Carly and Evan are one of those gems.

I don’t believe in happily ever after.  But I really hope that Carly and Evan end up finding it.

Their relationship followed a different arc than most on the show.  Remember a few weeks back when Carly was all “Ew, Evan, ew” and then threw up after their kiss?  Remember when she suddenly realized that, through their friendship, he had gotten under her skin?  Remember when she realized that they were going to be great?

Their relationship probably started in the best way that a relationship can.  Friendship, getting to know one another, before you start looking forward to all that the future might bring.   Slow, steady and then all at once.  Or slow and steady followed by more slow and steady.  Carly and Evan were a little bit odd.  But I got them and I think that, probably, lots of viewers did.  Their oddness didn’t matter.  Because it worked for them.

Each relationship in our life is and should be unique unto itself.  It doesn’t matter what it is “supposed” to look like.  It matters what works for the two people in that relationship.


Carly said: “Evan makes me feel like I can be any way I am.  Look any way I am. … He makes me feel so beautiful.  Like, inside and outside.  I’ve never felt like that.”

She told Evan: “You’re like home to me…”

Isn’t that how we all want to feel if and when we find a partner?

(I need to stop watching the Bachelor.  


Nick Viall is the next Bachelor.  

Yeah.  I’m so keeping my cable to watch that go down.)


Thoughts on The Bachelor thus far… And Love in general…

I haven’t quite finished all The Bachelor for this week.  I mean, even for me, 5 hours of episodes is A LOT of reality TV.  I just got to Whitney and Chris’s hometown though and I wanted to write a little bit about what I’m thinking.

Warning: there will be spoilers.  

At the start of this episode Britt was eliminated.  She was my first-night choice to win but she lost her pull with me as I continued to watch the show.  She was too needy, too demanding, too confident.  I lost all respect when they revealed that she put on fresh make up to sleep in.  I mean… seriously?!

So the way that things ended with Britt didn’t surprise me at all.  They had a great chemistry that’s for sure but there didn’t seem to be that much else there.

I don’t think that you can go into a relationship the way that they did and expect it to last.  She expected that they were together from night one.  It was like she saw herself as his fiance or something from that point on and considered the other girls to be minor obstacles.  He reinforced this by constantly giving her roses before the others.  I think he was blinded by the make-up, beauty, and the making out.  Who can blame him?  But nothing between them was real.

(Okay – I am aware that many of you just rolled your eyes so hard it probably hurt because you don’t believe that any of the relationships on this show are real – but bear with me.)

Relationships don’t happen overnight.  They can develop quickly… but they can’t be assumed like Britt assumed.  (We women are famous for making assumptions.)  This show is designed for quickly developing relationships but even for this show, Britt moved too fast.

I got to the Chris and Whitney hometown this evening and I realized that it’s going to be her.  First of all… there really aren’t many other options at this point.  Second of all… it’s so easy between them.  I saw this the other day and it reminded me of their relationship…


It has seemed so easy for them.  Silly, fun, full of laughter.  Yes, they’ve had serious discussions and gotten to know one another.  But, overall, it’s looked like fun.  It’s made me smile.

It actually reminds me a lot of Sean and Catherine and how much fun they had together.

So this evening when Whitney pulled out the bottle of wine and told Chris that she loved him… I realized that it was going to be her.  It has to be.  I may or may not have teared up a little bit.  I confirm nothing.

Can I also mention that I kind of hate myself for being so into this show?

I’m not sure what’s wrong with me.

I really need to get a life?

Hopeless romantic out.