Did anyone else fall hard into the Carly and Evan romance this season of Bachelor in Paradise? I did. I couldn’t help it. I like Carly. Her commentary on all situations in the house is so funny, sometimes I fast forward through the episodes just to listen to her sum things up.
Evan, on the other hand, is a bit of an odd one to place. He’s just so… geeky. Nothing like the other men that tend to be on the show.
(Don’t get me wrong, geeks are totally my thing. Guys, if I ever call you a “geek”, it probably means that I’m in love with you and want to get in your pants.)
As one of my friends summed up Carly and Evan’s relationship: “They’re two charmless people who are somehow charming together”. While I’m not sure that they are entirely charmless on their own (see comments above re: geeks) they certainly are better together.
And I’m not even gonna lie guys. I may have shed a tear or two watching their final scene together. How pathetic am I?
Listen, I know that these shows are total and complete bullshit. But they are such well done bullshit. I have them on in the background while I cook, or write, or dust.
(Totally kidding. I never dust).
I enjoy watching these shows. And I do think that we can take some gems from them once in a while. Carly and Evan are one of those gems.
I don’t believe in happily ever after. But I really hope that Carly and Evan end up finding it.
Their relationship followed a different arc than most on the show. Remember a few weeks back when Carly was all “Ew, Evan, ew” and then threw up after their kiss? Remember when she suddenly realized that, through their friendship, he had gotten under her skin? Remember when she realized that they were going to be great?
Their relationship probably started in the best way that a relationship can. Friendship, getting to know one another, before you start looking forward to all that the future might bring. Slow, steady and then all at once. Or slow and steady followed by more slow and steady. Carly and Evan were a little bit odd. But I got them and I think that, probably, lots of viewers did. Their oddness didn’t matter. Because it worked for them.
Each relationship in our life is and should be unique unto itself. It doesn’t matter what it is “supposed” to look like. It matters what works for the two people in that relationship.
Carly said: “Evan makes me feel like I can be any way I am. Look any way I am. … He makes me feel so beautiful. Like, inside and outside. I’ve never felt like that.”
She told Evan: “You’re like home to me…”
Isn’t that how we all want to feel if and when we find a partner?
(I need to stop watching the Bachelor.
Nick Viall is the next Bachelor.
Yeah. I’m so keeping my cable to watch that go down.)